Purposeful Living Paradigm #1

The Life Equations

It started as a parody on Einstein’s equation (E = Mc2 ). The thought was that there should be an equation that fits how we live. Not a linear equation, but one that was at least quadratic in form.

But what would be the elements, the equivalents to E and M and c?

What do people look for in their lives?

Our first attempts were money, health and entertainment. But these were too fixed to suit our approach. So, we started with synonyms: Wealth, Health and Enjoyment. Still too restrictive for what we wanted, and extremely hard to measure.

We eventually opted for the Three F’s…

  • Fun: that’s enjoyment, entertainment and more. It can also incorporate “bliss”, “energy”, and more.
  • Funds: the available resources that someone can have. Accounting tends to put everything down to money, and we were using the parody in a business sense. To simplify, we added the meaning of Time — you need the TIME to get things done. And it alliterates nicely with Fun
  • Fitness: If the other two began with F, then the health component should also start with an F. But Fitness can also include “being fit for purpose”, hence we could use it for physical fitness, emotional fitness, mental fitness and even spiritual fitness, whatever that could mean.

But what would be the right equation?

We chose:

F = F * F2

But which F stands for which element?

That’s the humorous part — they just all need to be there.

It gives us six life equations….

The Development Equation (Early Years)

Fun = Funds * Fitness2

As children, our lives are (mostly) about Fun. We don’t have to worry about where funds are coming from, and we do our best to be fit for all the fun we can have.

The  Rebellious-Phase Equation (Teenager Years)

As teens, we start to look at fitness for our future lives, so the subject has to be Fitness. We get fitter in all kinds of ways by mixing Funds with Fun, but Fun is the biggest contributor:

Fitness = Funds * Fun2

The Finding Your Place Equation ( Young Adult)

Suddenly, resources are the main concern, Fun isn’t as much a contributor but we have to have the knowledge and skills to generate the funds:

Funds = Fun * Fitness2

The Maturing Equation (Family/Career/Adulthood)

Funds are still our main concern, but Fitness drops, and we want to really enjoy what we do. We buy into the idea that Fun (our Bliss) is the main contributor to our earnings.

Funds = Fitness * Fun2 

 

The “What Next” Equation (Change of Life Style)

Fitness = Fun * Funds2 

At this stage of life, we usually have all the resources we can use, but we are more interested in the quality of life, rather than the quantity.

The  Rewards Equation (The Final Third Stage)

Fun = Fitness * Funds2

The circle of life/business is complete.

The stages apply to business, life and community but the key is evolution and the continual need for the components of FUN, FUNDS and FITNESS in some proportion in your life.

REMEMBER – teach your grandchildren the components and the formulae so that their world has purpose that is fulfilled.

Enjoy Fun, Funds and Fitness today

Word Mentalist

Sharing Definitions Stops Success Thieves

One of the greatest challenges people are experiencing every day is understanding each other. Why?

Because we fail to define what we mean and that steals our success with the relationship with that person.

If we look at the Trump-Clinton clashes, how many of their differences are the result of how they define the problems and issues.

Many years ago my son and his wife were going through a challenging time and one of the comments that was made at the time was the different way they described the situation which meant that they dealt with the situation very differently.

Working with the Behavioral Archetypes, we know that a person who is primarily a “face” has very different definitions than someone who is a “heart” or “hands”. Recently I have been very challenged by the face behaviour people in my life and have  left an organisation I loved dearly because the definitions of concepts like respect, sharing and seeing the best were so different.

What is Your  Definition of Achievement? 

Look at the words in the picture. How do you define each of those words?

Now go ask a business colleague for their definition of the same words? (No prompting just what does “…” mean to you)

Now ask your grandparents 0r parents how they define those words and if you no longer have grandparents or parents ask someone at least 20 years older than you are.

And then go ask a child, someone 20 years younger than you, for their definition.

What happened? Did you get the same definition?

Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?

When you get a “rich shared map” of what people mean by a word, concept, activity, you start to build a shared idea and can move to a different level of communication.

And when that happens, success thieves are stopped. You now  can make a real difference to your relationship. And that leads to – WHATEVER You DESIRE.

Please share what happened when you asked about the definitions. I know that when I talk with my children and grandchildren, it is always enlightening.

To your success

Word Mentalist