One of the greatest challenges people are experiencing every day is understanding each other. Why?
Because we fail to define what we mean and that steals our success with the relationship with that person.
If we look at the Trump-Clinton clashes, how many of their differences are the result of how they define the problems and issues.
Many years ago my son and his wife were going through a challenging time and one of the comments that was made at the time was the different way they described the situation which meant that they dealt with the situation very differently.
Working with the Behavioral Archetypes, we know that a person who is primarily a “face” has very different definitions than someone who is a “heart” or “hands”. Recently I have been very challenged by the face behaviour people in my life and have left an organisation I loved dearly because the definitions of concepts like respect, sharing and seeing the best were so different.
Look at the words in the picture. How do you define each of those words?
Now go ask a business colleague for their definition of the same words? (No prompting just what does “…” mean to you)
Now ask your grandparents 0r parents how they define those words and if you no longer have grandparents or parents ask someone at least 20 years older than you are.
And then go ask a child, someone 20 years younger than you, for their definition.
What happened? Did you get the same definition?
Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?
When you get a “rich shared map” of what people mean by a word, concept, activity, you start to build a shared idea and can move to a different level of communication.
And when that happens, success thieves are stopped. You now can make a real difference to your relationship. And that leads to – WHATEVER You DESIRE.
Please share what happened when you asked about the definitions. I know that when I talk with my children and grandchildren, it is always enlightening.
To your success