Is Political Correctness a Success Thief?

Is Political Correctness a Success Thief?

Political Correctness, in my humble opinion, is a HUGE Success thief.

Political Correctness is a majority opinion that looks first at simple things you agree with and then creates absolutes that take thought and care to disagree with.

Political Correctness feeds the SHOULD Thief.

Political Correctness is the THEY that say “you should…” just because they say you should.

Can you see how Political Correctness might limit your choices?

Political Correctness sets those bars that often stop people from thinking on their own. After all if they say, then obviously that is right.

Right?

Positive Discrimination can shine a light on something that only had a limited problem and blown it out of proportion to the size of the problem thus fulfilling the concernPolitical Correctness creates sacred cows. Common sense says certain things are true but what Political Correctness does is make shine a light and set new “rules” around a situation that may or may not have been a problem

The following examples are here for you consideration and comment:

  • The New Zealand anti-smacking law was brought in to stop deaths and violence against children. However the Ministry of Social Welfare reports that since 2006 there has been an increase in extreme violence against children. And worse several parents have been charged for smacking a child in public. We all agree smacking is bad, right. But what is the difference between beating a child and smacking their hand or bum to get their attention or make a point?
  • The New Zealand anti-smoking lobby began over 20 years ago. In the last 10 or so years it has become illegal to smoke in bars, restaurants, office buildings and many other public spaces. Are you aware of the statistics around lung cancer then and now? Could the increase be due more to the number of vehicles on the road or worse as one study I saw a few years ago said, the rate of smoking related deaths was equivalent to the rate women were wearing panyhose. How absurd?
  • Then there is the attitude around drugs to treat cancer. Why are some drugs readily acceptable while others that have only anecdotal evidence are rejected? And can anyone tell me why with over 50 years of cancer research and billions of dollars invested, cancer rates keep increasing? (As an aside, I know from personal experience that one can land up on the records as a cancer survivor if you have a non-cancerous lump removed)

And then there is this absurd example: In New Zealand we have a company who rents cheap vehicles and the PC brigade wants to put them out of business.

Why, you ask?

Because of the slogans on their vans.

Yes, many of their slogans are disgusting but…some people like them while others HATE them. Hate them to the point of criminal charges, reporting them to  Advertising Standards Authorities in Australia. In New Zealand, camping grounds are refusing them entry but…

Why did they start this campaign? Why paint their vans with “crudity”?

Because to stand out from all the other rental options, they wanted to be controversial.

Think of the marketing awareness they are getting because media reports something when ever someone “important” comments. Think of what is happening on Social media. Could you pay for that kind of awareness?

It almost reminds me of the Donald Trump campaign for President. Say the obvious. Talk about the issues in a controversial way that a lot of people agree with and the next thing you know people believe in you and start taking everything you say seriously.

Donald Trump is not anti political correctness I think that he wants to change the controllers of Political Correctness. He wants to give voice to another set of people who will reset the absolutes, the shoulds and the musts.

What can you do?

  • First be aware of what is happening.
  • Listen for the shoulds.
  • Decide if you agree and why you think the way you do.
  • Then acknowledge what is happening, accept the difference, appreciate the lesson and opinion and decide a course of action that will ensure you stay in control of your success.

Looking forward to your comments

#robertabudvietas

 

Depression, Birthdays and Success Thieves

Birthdays are supposed to be happy days but as we get older I notice how they become more and more depressing and steal the joy of the celebration.

Yesterday I wished someone a happy birthday and they responded with birthday yes, happy no.

That led to a phone call…http://www.successthieves.net; #depression

Truth was he did not feel very happy. Everything seemed hopeless.

I remember that feeling. It was one of the reasons I wrote “Who Stole My Success?”

It happens to everyone I believe. There are moments in our life when we look back and it feels like nothing has worked out. And when we feel like that it is CRITICAL to find things to be grateful for.

It is also important to create plans, even simple actions that you will undertake today and tomorrow.

World Health Organization (WHO) added a new video: I had a black dog, his name was depression. It was eye-opening for me about depression. I know that depression is serious: 3 members of my family suffer from serious, immobilizing depression.

http://successthieves.net; #depression

I don’t claim to understand the depths of the mental health situation called depression but I do know that depression can affect everyone around the person suffering.

Is there a simple way of dealing with depression, short-term or long-term?

I’m not certain that there is but what I am certain of is that unless we connect, care and love each other depression will continue to steal all of our success.

Substance abuse, binge drinking, even excessive exercise to build endorphins are all ways that can be used to reduce symptoms of depression.

But what is this thing called depression?

There are many webpages devoted to it. There are professionals in the medical and council fields that specialise in depression.

Is this an increasing health risk?

Just because you feel sad or cry are you depressed or is it a temporary human reaction and you will get through it?

My belief, (and please let me know if you agree or not); is that if we practiced the 5 A’s (awareness, acknowledgement, acceptance, appreciation and action) more and actually loved ourselves and others so that we were better connected, then depression would no longer be the fastest growing medical condition (both diagnosed and undiagnosed) in the western world today.

http:www.successthieves.net; #hugs
Hugs all around

So today – HUGS all around. I do care.

You are AWESOME and remember you can stop your success thieves by taking control of your choices and saying NO to what is not working for you.

And remember: it is okay sometimes to feel sad, cry or just feel bummed out.

May your day be filled with little miracles and one big joy that carries you through to tomorrow when the same wish holds. Do something FUN!

Until next time

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

 

Sharing Definitions Stops Success Thieves

One of the greatest challenges people are experiencing every day is understanding each other. Why?

Because we fail to define what we mean and that steals our success with the relationship with that person.

If we look at the Trump-Clinton clashes, how many of their differences are the result of how they define the problems and issues.

Many years ago my son and his wife were going through a challenging time and one of the comments that was made at the time was the different way they described the situation which meant that they dealt with the situation very differently.

Working with the Behavioral Archetypes, we know that a person who is primarily a “face” has very different definitions than someone who is a “heart” or “hands”. Recently I have been very challenged by the face behaviour people in my life and have  left an organisation I loved dearly because the definitions of concepts like respect, sharing and seeing the best were so different.

What is Your  Definition of Achievement? 

Look at the words in the picture. How do you define each of those words?

Now go ask a business colleague for their definition of the same words? (No prompting just what does “…” mean to you)

Now ask your grandparents 0r parents how they define those words and if you no longer have grandparents or parents ask someone at least 20 years older than you are.

And then go ask a child, someone 20 years younger than you, for their definition.

What happened? Did you get the same definition?

Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?

When you get a “rich shared map” of what people mean by a word, concept, activity, you start to build a shared idea and can move to a different level of communication.

And when that happens, success thieves are stopped. You now  can make a real difference to your relationship. And that leads to – WHATEVER You DESIRE.

Please share what happened when you asked about the definitions. I know that when I talk with my children and grandchildren, it is always enlightening.

To your success

Word Mentalist

 

Awareness Stops Success Thieves

#awareness

A while ago,  I was listening to Ian Ferguson, one of New Zealand’s top Olympians discussing the secrets to winning gold medals. The secret…paying attention to what is happening to you and your body – i.e.AWARENESS.

Business advisors constantly tell you to focus on one thing at ta time. And when you focus you have to be aware. Aware of what you are doing what results you want. Aware of what is actually happening.

When you meditate, you are aware of your mantra, your breath or some other specific point. The greater your awareness of a single thing, the more you can find peace and answers.

Success requires that same level of awareness.

  • A laser focus.
  • A clear picture or objective, goal, outcome.

And when you are so totally aware of what you want, there is no way anyone can steal your success. You stop those success thieves simply because there is no room in your mind for them.

Doubt occurs only when you stop being aware of your objective and activities

Fear happens when you pause and lose focus.

Possibility Thinking

Anything is possible if you truly believe. The challenge is to keep doubt and fear away. Awareness is the only way of doing that.

What exactly should you be aware of?

  1. What you are thinking
  2. What you are doing
  3. What others are saying and more importantly not saying.

What is happening that you can control.

Always remember the Guide to Purposeful Living – Awareness, Acknowledgement, Acceptance, Appreciation and Action.

And live by the Manifesto to a Meaningful Life – Keep your word, Assume Nothing, Take Nothing Personal, Always do your best and Regret Nothing.

Through  AWARENESS YOU control.

Through Awareness You make choices that keep success thieves at bay.

Being Aware helps you feel purposeful, passionate and happy.

So be aware. Stop your success thieves.

Live long and prosper

Word Mentalist

Being Flexible Stops Success Thieves

#beingflexible

When you are flexible you have the ability to control and change and that stops success thieves.

How can you be flexible?

Awareness is the first step in being flexible.

Be aware of what you are doing so you can decide if it is worthwhile to continue doing it.

Be aware of the what is happening around you. So often we act on autopilot, doing the same things in the same way and never looking at why or if there is a better way or even if it is needed.

Be aware of the reactions to what is happening around you and avoid shiny object syndrome (buying because media or friends say that you have to have something).

Next is acknowledge what is happening. Just being aware is never enough. You need to acknowledge that people and things are what they are. So often we can put blinkers on and pretend that things have not changed or that people are the same as they have always been. But in truth, change is a constant and you need to acknowledge that the change has happened and accept those changes. Flexibility  depends on acknowledging and accepting the difference in people and things.

Then be grateful, appreciate that things are evolving. After all do you really want to be stuck?

And the final thing to do is act of the changes.

  • Make a choice.
  • Make a decision.
  • Change and move in a different direction.
  • The success thieves are stopped because you no longer ignore the changes. Your flexibility removes rigid responses and helps your development.
  • Life is about choice and change.
  • So to choose and change you need to be flexible.
  • Have fun bending but not breaking.

Have fun enjoying your growth.

#robertabudvietas