Finding What Your Success is

Over the last forty years I have been studying success and all of the different meanings and measures.

Success Magazine is a wonderful resources. Many of their resources date back to the start of last century. Others are more recent but one common theme – you need to decide what success looks like for you.

Other Resources and Authors

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon HIll

University of Success or any other book by Og Mandino

Rich Dad Poor Dad and any other material by Robert Kiyosaki and the team

A Course in Miracles

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

The secret is to find the book, expert, author, coach that is right for you RIGHT NOW!

Oh and let’s not forget; Who Stole My Success? by Moi. If you comment on your route to success below, I will send you a free copy of the book as a thank you.

Use Affirmations

Personal, Present, Positive ones like

  • “I am the greatest” Mohammed Ali
  • “I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Winston Churchill
  • “I am a product of my decisions” Stephen Covey
  • “I am unlimited in my wealth. All areas of my life are abundant and fulfilling.” Louise Hay
  • I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends.
  • “Every decision I make is the right one for me” Louise Hay

Get a Positive reinforcement into your inbox every daywhat is success, #success http://successthieves.net/finding-what-your-success-is/

Subscribe to Hay House as well as Success Magazine.

AND NEVER let anyone chose how you feel about your success.

  • Keep your Hope alive.
  • Keep your Faith in you.
  • Keep your friends close to you.
  • Let go of the idiots who need to bring you down for them to feel good.
  • And remember

What is your success? # success http://successthieves.net/finding-what-your-success-is/GOD Created YOU and GOD does not make mistakes.

Success is yours when you believe that you are successful, amazing and awesome.

You are fulfilling a purpose so move your life forward and live the wonderous YOU.

Live your Success

I believe in you even if I don’t know you yet. I am here to support you on your journey to live your purpose and enjoy the success that comes from Purposeful Living. Like the Purposeful Living Paradigm page to continue to experience more fun, funds and fitness.

Love always

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

Taking Care of Others

Once upon a time, in a world not so long ago, most people actually knew their neighbours and kept tabs on each other’s children and elders. Chicken soup was delivered to those who were sick. Baking was shared with neighbours as was the produce from the garden. No one worried about sickos grabbing children off the street or putting dangerous things into halloween candy and fruit. Santa Claus delivered coal to bad children. Neighbours talked over the back fence and helped others out.Caring for others, #love, #care, http://successthieves.net/

It was a world where when disaster struck; you knew which neighbour needed to be checked on. You knew who the vulnerable were in your area. You cared about them and they cared about you. You helped others when they asked and even when they didn’t. You cared about those who were in pain or withdrawn and you respected other’s property.

Can we have a caring world today?

I believe we can but it requires some simple changes in the way we think and the way we belong to our communities.

It starts with family. It starts with parents setting guidelines for their children and living by those guidelines themselves. Children require several things that every parent can provide – love, attention, support, encouragement and protection. Yes children need food and shelter, clothing and education but if we provide for their emotional and mental needs, the material things are less important.

Either turn off the television or realistically discuss what is seen in the unreal world of television. This is also important as an adult because otherwise we think what we see on Shortland Street, Days of our Life, Lucifer and Suits are normal: the beautiful clothes, the luxury homes and apartments, the elaborate dinners and the abusive treatment of people.

Good writers, especially movie and television understand that you need conflict and resolution to prevent a story from being boring but seriously is that your reality? Most of us do have conflict at some time in our life but mostly we cope with a routine and the joys of doing things well.

And watching television makes us rue the ordinariness of our lives. (Books and movies can do the same thing). Studies and reports say that some people live their lives through reality television and soap operas.

Look around you. The people you see every day are the ones that really matter so today do the following:

  1. Smile at EVERYONE you meet
  2. Say hello and never be afraid to stop and talk for 30 seconds.
  3. Be kind to others. Open doors, help people with their load and be polite. Please and thank you still make a difference.
  4. Tell those in your family that you love them and say thank you to them every night as you hug them before going to sleep.
  5. Hugs are needed by every person. Touch people but only if they are comfortable with the touching. When we touch and hug something happens to our being.
  6. Share when you have excess of anything.
  7. Care for the neighbourhood. Never drop garbage and pick up others if possible. Watch where you pets defecate and pick it up.
  8. Plant beautiful flowers and share them with others.
  9. Grow herbs and use them liberally.
  10. Remember to teach your children that they have responsibilities and that nothing is theirs by right. Gratitude is something we need to practice every day.
  11. Take time to smell the grass, watch the sunrise and give thanks.
  12. Get your hands dirty occasionally. Physical labour never hurt anyone and it really grounds you.
  13. Feel the earth. Touch the grass, the leaves, the bark, the water, the wind and turn your face to the rain and the sun.
  14. Recycle as much as possible.
  15. Turn off the electronics.
  16. Laugh out loud often.
  17. Dance and move to music, even if only in your head
  18. Sing out loud.
  19. Spend time doing something new.
  20. Learn something new every day – experience ah-ha moments.

And when your heart is full of gratitude, love and laughter, you will care about others.: because to care about others you have to stop thinking only about yourself.

Live a purposeful life and enjoy it

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

 

Purposeful Living Paradigm

Recently we introduced people to the Purposeful Living Paradigm. This paradigm is based on over 50 years of study, learning, experience and helping/mentoring business owners, students and colleagues.

  • We have learned from hundreds of gurus and we believe they have missed a couple of elements that we believe are key to the paradigm.
  • We believe in personal responsibility,
  • We believe in true equality (no hierarchy)
  • We believe that business can be conducted in a manner where everyone gains what they need in a timely fashion which eliminates poverty and isolation.
  • We believe that living in the paradigm means that you are connected to others but your realise that it is a privilege, not a right.
  • In the paradigm, you know the difference between responsibility to and responsibility for.
  • Awareness is a key to living in the paradigm. You acknowledge that everyone is and they are perfectly them in this moment. You accept that they have a right to their point of view, ideas and concepts and you appreciate the differences and similarities.
  • You live by a manifesto of doing your best, assuming nothing, taking nothing personally and regret nothing because you did your best and learned from the experience.

Why Purpose?

Because purpose is important.

Purpose keeps you going through tough times.

Purpose ensures that everyone benefits.

Purpose removes the need for security blankets because it recognises the continual growth and development that purposeful living people experience.

Purpose challenges assumptions and helps one acknowledge, accept and appreciate others

Purpose keeps you grateful, humble and living in the now.

Purpose helps you enjoy day to day more fun, funds (resources) and fitness (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual).

If you want to join the paradigm or learn more about living in the paradigm, join our Facebook Page and watch for more information coming shortly.

If you want your organisation or business to be more purposeful and enjoy the true benefits of purpose let us know.

Purposeful Living is FUN!

To your purpose

Word Mentalist

Feedback- Positive or Negative?

We all get feedback every day. Some of it is positive. Some of it is negative. Some is actually neither but we perceive it as one or the other. And some of it is just down-right MEAN.

Feedback comes in words, actions, lack of response, and from our own bodies. Hunger, habits, pain, bodily functions are all feedbacks of different types.

But today let’s talk about verbal feedback.

Recently I received a feedback that I am a negative person. Now I look at the comments and want to check if I really am as negative as they say? From my viewpoint all I wanted to do is understand their thinking, I was asking for information or making comments on things I could see that could be improved. But it seems that it is easier to call me negative rather that admit they don’t want to look at the situation I am seeing. This is over-simplified as there is lots of other stuff happening and that does affect the choice of words on all sides of the equation.

Business, governance and even life are about managing risk. If you bungy jump or parachute or do some other risky potentially life threatening activity, you check to see that the situation is safe. You ask about the risks and the safety provisions. You understand that there are back-ups, safety harness, secondary chutes. Often we assume that they are in place but we fail to check that they are. We believe that since we are paying for the experience, the staff and owners will ensure our safety. Have you ever really read the forms you sign before stepping out on the ledge?

Maxwell Maltz wrote a book on Psycho-cybernetics many years ago. It was written as a personal development book and the basis of the book was that feedback both positive and negative would benefit athletes, staff and even parents raising children.

Feedback – Reactions/Actions?

  1. How you give that feedback affects the person receiving that feedback but the effect depends on the relationship. A strong relationship means the feedback can be discussed and both parties learn more about themselves and the other person.
  2. Unless you understand exactly what the person giving feedback means by the feedback given, the resulting actions and emotions can be unexpected.
  3. Bullying is a form of feedback yet we often pay coaches and others to help us change a habit or improve a performance.
  4. The person receiving the feedback can accept or refuse the feedback depending on their level of respect for the person giving the feedback or their opportunity to respond to unjust feedback.
  5. Feedback happens on many levels. Touch a hot stove, a sharp knife or walk into an unknown situation. Feedback helps keep us safe and teaches us to watch out for certain situations.
  6. Movies, television, media, books and other entertainment provides us with feedback on worlds we may never encounter. Our expectations on what will happen is coloured by our experiences, knowledge and ideas.
  7. We can give permission to people to give us negative feedback – sports coaches, diet coaches and sometimes bosses. But that feedback can then carry over into other areas of our life unless the feedback is constructed to comment only on our behaviour or the viewing of the actions, not on who we are.
  8. When feedback is destructive to “who the person is”, then what tends to happen can be soul destroying and can lead to depression and other serious health states. Telling a person they are stupid or useless are examples of this kind of soul-destroying feedback.
  9. When you receive feedback that hurts you can modify it by saying yes at the moment that may be true but…and then do something that builds esteem. A gratitude exercise can help and so can a hug
  10. Remember that feedback is a loop, a loop you can change. The Universe sent this message to me today. I think the sage advise here is a great way to deal with feedback.

The next time someone upsets you, think, “Thanks for pointing out that I’ve begun depending on you. Time I lose the expectations.” 

And the next time someone doesn’t take your view into account, think, “That’s okay, I was once like that.” 

And if someone steals from you, think, “It was nothing, my supply is the Universe.” 

Or lies to you, think, “I’m sorry you feel that need.” 

Violates you, “All for my growth and glory.” 

Is rude to you, “Cheer up, dear soul, it’ll be okay.” 

Judges you, “Thanks for sharing your truth.” 

Drives by you like a bat out of hell, “Be careful, my friend. I love you.” 

And the next time someone greets you with a smile, smile back, like you’re sharing a secret. 

Headmaster,
The Universe

My feedback to you today:

You are AMAZING

Have a wonderful day

Word Mentalist

Finding Your Success

Over the last forty years I have been studying success and all of the different meanings and measures.

Success Magazine is a wonderful resources. Many of their resources date back to the start of last century. Others are more recent but one common theme – you need to decide what success looks like for you.

Other Resources and Authors

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon HIll

University of Success or any other book by Og Mandino

Rich Dad Poor Dad and any other material by Robert Kiyosaki and the team

A Course in Miracles

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

The secret is to find the book, expert, author, coach that is right for you RIGHT NOW!

Oh and let’s not forget; Who Stole My Success? by Moi. If you comment on your route to success below, I will send you a free copy of the book as a thank you.

Use Affirmations

Personal, Present, Positive ones like

  • “I am the greatest” Mohammed Ali
  • “I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Winston Churchill
  • “I am a product of my decisions” Stephen Covey
  • “I am unlimited in my wealth. All areas of my life are abundant and fulfilling.” Louise Hay
  • I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends.
  • “Every decision I make is the right one for me” Louise Hay

Get a Positive reinforcement into your inbox every day

Subscribe to Hay House as well as Success Magazine.

AND NEVER let anyone tell you how you feel about you and your success.

  • Keep your Hope alive.
  • Keep your Faith in you.
  • Keep your friends close to you.
  • Let go of the idiots who need to bring you down for them to feel good.
  • And remember

GOD Created YOU and GOD does not make mistakes.

Success is yours when you believe that you are successful, amazing and awesome.

You are fulfilling a purpose so move your life forward and live the wonderous YOU.

Live your Success

I believe in you even if I don’t know you yet

Love always

 

Being Transparent: Do you really see what is Happening?

When you look at the definition of transparent, it means you can see through it. But seeing through something may not mean you actually see what is happening.

If you take a look on social media you find many stories where the organisation claimed to be transparent but in actual fact the people who were looking at the entity were unable to see what was really going on.

Some examples:

In technology many systems are
#transparency

Given the nature of transparency therefore does that mean you can actually see what is happening or is it like so many things..if I have to tell you I am honest, integrous or transparent does that mean that my actions make you think otherwise.

Leaders, politicians even family and friends want us to think of them in a particular way. They object when we find their actions and their words conflict and make us feel uncertain.

The conflict usually is the result of mismatching and misunderstanding the Archetypes involved. You may have been taught that communication is tone and posture are more important than the words but in our experience the words have impact, if not immediately than when reflection occurs.

And miscommunication can occur when you think we have shown all our cards, explained everything, been transparent, but have not been understood by the other party. Every day people are so busy that they often do not take the time to understand others or actually deal and question what others say to them.  It causes stress. It leads to confusion. And unfortunately it can lead to health problems. I remember several years ago when my boss and I had major communication problems and I became crippled and unable to talk. It lasted until one day after I quit the company.

Similar things happen with many of our clients, especially when they have made a clear decision and suddenly someone challenges them on their decision. They then start judging, questioning and feeling uncertain. And when that doubt occurs, they become virtually stuck. The success thieves have stolen their ability to take action.

 Consider:

  • If transparency really means that you see what is happening or just that you see the outcome someone else wants you to.
  • Words have power and we respond to words based on both the situation and the Archetypes involved.
  • Our success depends on how we respond to the communications that happen around and with us.

Words do have power. Use them wisely and ask for help when you feel a conflict.

Never doubt yourself.

Mentoring is a great way to build your confidence in what you see and your gut senses. Contact me if I can help you

To your success

Word Mentalist