Purposeful Living Paradigm #1

The Life Equations

It started as a parody on Einstein’s equation (E = Mc2 ). The thought was that there should be an equation that fits how we live. Not a linear equation, but one that was at least quadratic in form.

But what would be the elements, the equivalents to E and M and c?

What do people look for in their lives?

Our first attempts were money, health and entertainment. But these were too fixed to suit our approach. So, we started with synonyms: Wealth, Health and Enjoyment. Still too restrictive for what we wanted, and extremely hard to measure.

We eventually opted for the Three F’s…

  • Fun: that’s enjoyment, entertainment and more. It can also incorporate “bliss”, “energy”, and more.
  • Funds: the available resources that someone can have. Accounting tends to put everything down to money, and we were using the parody in a business sense. To simplify, we added the meaning of Time — you need the TIME to get things done. And it alliterates nicely with Fun
  • Fitness: If the other two began with F, then the health component should also start with an F. But Fitness can also include “being fit for purpose”, hence we could use it for physical fitness, emotional fitness, mental fitness and even spiritual fitness, whatever that could mean.

But what would be the right equation?

We chose:

F = F * F2

But which F stands for which element?

That’s the humorous part — they just all need to be there.

It gives us six life equations….

The Development Equation (Early Years)

Fun = Funds * Fitness2

As children, our lives are (mostly) about Fun. We don’t have to worry about where funds are coming from, and we do our best to be fit for all the fun we can have.

The  Rebellious-Phase Equation (Teenager Years)

As teens, we start to look at fitness for our future lives, so the subject has to be Fitness. We get fitter in all kinds of ways by mixing Funds with Fun, but Fun is the biggest contributor:

Fitness = Funds * Fun2

The Finding Your Place Equation ( Young Adult)

Suddenly, resources are the main concern, Fun isn’t as much a contributor but we have to have the knowledge and skills to generate the funds:

Funds = Fun * Fitness2

The Maturing Equation (Family/Career/Adulthood)

Funds are still our main concern, but Fitness drops, and we want to really enjoy what we do. We buy into the idea that Fun (our Bliss) is the main contributor to our earnings.

Funds = Fitness * Fun2 

 

The “What Next” Equation (Change of Life Style)

Fitness = Fun * Funds2 

At this stage of life, we usually have all the resources we can use, but we are more interested in the quality of life, rather than the quantity.

The  Rewards Equation (The Final Third Stage)

Fun = Fitness * Funds2

The circle of life/business is complete.

The stages apply to business, life and community but the key is evolution and the continual need for the components of FUN, FUNDS and FITNESS in some proportion in your life.

REMEMBER – teach your grandchildren the components and the formulae so that their world has purpose that is fulfilled.

Enjoy Fun, Funds and Fitness today

Word Mentalist

Sharing Definitions Stops Success Thieves

One of the greatest challenges people are experiencing every day is understanding each other. Why?

Because we fail to define what we mean and that steals our success with the relationship with that person.

If we look at the Trump-Clinton clashes, how many of their differences are the result of how they define the problems and issues.

Many years ago my son and his wife were going through a challenging time and one of the comments that was made at the time was the different way they described the situation which meant that they dealt with the situation very differently.

Working with the Behavioral Archetypes, we know that a person who is primarily a “face” has very different definitions than someone who is a “heart” or “hands”. Recently I have been very challenged by the face behaviour people in my life and have  left an organisation I loved dearly because the definitions of concepts like respect, sharing and seeing the best were so different.

What is Your  Definition of Achievement? 

Look at the words in the picture. How do you define each of those words?

Now go ask a business colleague for their definition of the same words? (No prompting just what does “…” mean to you)

Now ask your grandparents 0r parents how they define those words and if you no longer have grandparents or parents ask someone at least 20 years older than you are.

And then go ask a child, someone 20 years younger than you, for their definition.

What happened? Did you get the same definition?

Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?

When you get a “rich shared map” of what people mean by a word, concept, activity, you start to build a shared idea and can move to a different level of communication.

And when that happens, success thieves are stopped. You now  can make a real difference to your relationship. And that leads to – WHATEVER You DESIRE.

Please share what happened when you asked about the definitions. I know that when I talk with my children and grandchildren, it is always enlightening.

To your success

Word Mentalist

 

Awareness Stops Success Thieves

#awareness

A while ago,  I was listening to Ian Ferguson, one of New Zealand’s top Olympians discussing the secrets to winning gold medals. The secret…paying attention to what is happening to you and your body – i.e.AWARENESS.

Business advisors constantly tell you to focus on one thing at ta time. And when you focus you have to be aware. Aware of what you are doing what results you want. Aware of what is actually happening.

When you meditate, you are aware of your mantra, your breath or some other specific point. The greater your awareness of a single thing, the more you can find peace and answers.

Success requires that same level of awareness.

  • A laser focus.
  • A clear picture or objective, goal, outcome.

And when you are so totally aware of what you want, there is no way anyone can steal your success. You stop those success thieves simply because there is no room in your mind for them.

Doubt occurs only when you stop being aware of your objective and activities

Fear happens when you pause and lose focus.

Possibility Thinking

Anything is possible if you truly believe. The challenge is to keep doubt and fear away. Awareness is the only way of doing that.

What exactly should you be aware of?

  1. What you are thinking
  2. What you are doing
  3. What others are saying and more importantly not saying.

What is happening that you can control.

Always remember the Guide to Purposeful Living – Awareness, Acknowledgement, Acceptance, Appreciation and Action.

And live by the Manifesto to a Meaningful Life – Keep your word, Assume Nothing, Take Nothing Personal, Always do your best and Regret Nothing.

Through  AWARENESS YOU control.

Through Awareness You make choices that keep success thieves at bay.

Being Aware helps you feel purposeful, passionate and happy.

So be aware. Stop your success thieves.

Live long and prosper

Word Mentalist

Words, Understanding and the Success Thieves

Words and how we understand them can either help us succeed or totally steal our success. The Assumptions we make about the meaning of the words we use impacts on our success.

When you listen to the words of Ronan Keating – When you say nothing at all implies that expressing love can be done without words but… Listen for a moment

The smile on your face,
The look in your eyes,
The touch of your hand
Lets me know that you need me.

Do we really need the words to form an impression, an idea or a concept? Or do we assume that the we understand what the other person is trying to convey without words. According to this song…NO words are needed.

But…

Word Awareness

By being aware of the words you use, you can understand first yourself and then others. And that understanding leads to you being able to accept and acknowledge what those words mean and how they affect you and others.

Do you even need words?

According to the song, words are unnecessary for him to know that “you need me” but is that an assumption and can that assumption lead to heartbreak?

My husband and I have been married over 47 years but while I know that he needs (wants) me, I am also aware of the language we use. There have been times when I say or do something that annoys him totally. We needed words to prevent the shattering and success of our long term relationship if we let it. Words clear up situations. They allow us to express ourselves and learn more about ourselves and those who matter.

By understanding the words on all levels – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual, we can stop those thieves that could destroy a wonderful friendship, relationship and support.

Unkind Words

There are many times you use a word that others find unkind or offensive but your intention was not to offend. Your intention was only to help, instead the other person misunderstood and suddenly the relationship shatters.

Today’s challenge:

Look at the words you use this week and what you understand them to mean and what others seem understand. If in doubt ask them what they understood you to mean?

Look at how this affect the success in your relationships?

And remember your smile, your touch, do make a difference but the other person may still not know what you really need or want.

Together let’s build more success by watching the words and assumptions we make.

Cheers

#robertabudvietas