Why does a Village Matter?

Remember when we shared village principals…

  • children played on the street and everyone watched out for them?
  • the elderly were visited by their neighbours on a regular basis?
  • We were connected on an eye-ball to eye-ball level rather than electronically.
  • We noticed when someone was at a neighbour’s window.
  • We asked strangers if we could help them.
  • We smiled at everyone.
  • We talked to people in shops and had a relationship with the butcher, the baker and the pharmacist. The staff knew who we were and what we were looking for and when we would shop.

But that has changed and with the change we seem to have had an increase in isolation, depression, stress, suicide, health issues and a general breakdown of relationships.

An Alternative: Cohousing

Here is a Ted talk on cohousing 

Thriving depends on connection. You really achieve very little on your own and since we rarely pat ourselves on our own backs, who else will support us and cheer us on?

We are all here on this earth on purpose. We all belong here. We all exist to help and serve others so let’s think about how we live.

Fear dies when we stop feeling isolated. Remember how it feels to be loved. To be cared for and nurtured. We need more of that feeling not less. We need that feeling at all ages.

Success is not about having powerful jobs, lots of money and lots of power. Look at people you admire and study their careers. How many destroy what is good when they get power?

How many burn out quickly when they are on the top of their “game/career’? Alcohol, drugs grab hold because people need something to make them feel better or to calm then down.

Let’s talk more about cohabiting. Talk about community not in what can you do for me or for the less fortunate but what can we do for each other. How do we stop the insanity?

Do we tell governments, politicians and despots/dictators to take a hike and instead of waiting for someone else to fix the problem around us, we do it ourselves.

We go out and patch the road, feed the hungry and house the homeless. We acknowledge that everyone has a value and we accept and appreciate what everyone can contribute. We feed the hungry and they help us with the garden or the housework. Not charity but sharing and helping. Walking together. Reading together. Laughing together. Sharing heartaches and joys. We help others to learn by sharing our stories and experiences especially those about caring for others.

I believe that cohabiting is the future for every apartment building and gated community and suburb but …we need to change our attitude and stop fearing that we will lose something precious. There is only one thing precious.

LIFE

And life is precious because it is about love, interconnectivity, faith and expressing those things. 

What do you really want in your LIFE? What do you have in your life that you value that keeps you on living your purpose.

Let us create  villages. The concept is growing geographically but now it needs to grow emotionally and connectivity wise. It will take a change in thinking, attitude and it will push boundaries.

Let us all care more.

With love and best wishes

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

 

ABC’s of the Purposeful Living Paradigm

Do you love basics? Knowing the rules? Doing what is acceptable/expected? Then you probably have some ABCs that you do in your life and business. The basics!

Living in the Paradigm

The Purposeful Living Paradigm is a methodology we have been living for most of our married lives (a span of 48 years shortly). Peter  started living that way as a child, he has always lived to his purpose.

What is Peter’s purpose – to learn and understand as much as possible. He loves to synthesize new thoughts, new ways of looking at the world. He asks different and often difficult questions. He studies what people do and say and then asks them why and would they do things differently, if they could? His analytical ability astounds me. He is not a fan of formal education as he loves the research, the seeking out of patterns and behaviours. He listens. He prothletises. He challenges. He assumes very little. And he takes very little personally – your opinion is yours and he allows you to keep it.

My purpose is to help as many people as possible to live their purpose. As a business mentor this is often hard as I want to tell people what they should do if they really want the results they say they do. I tend to believe people and take them at face value. Sometimes this works really well but often people tell me only what they think I want to hear and that means we have a confused base to start applying the ABC’s of the Purposeful Living Paradigm.

Before I explain the ABCs, we need to understand the word paradigm and one of the quirks of human nature.

According to dictionary definitions: A paradigm is

  • a framework containing the basic assumptions, ways of thinking,and methodology that are commonly accepted by members of scientific community such as  a cognitive framework shared by members of any discipline or group.

A quirk – most people when they shift paradigms cannot remember ever having believed or thought differently. It takes awareness and discipline to recall old paradigms and when we shift our paradigms we generally believe we are moving to something better so why would we want to recall the previous paradigm. Shifting is because either the old paradigm did not work or we saw the light of the new paradigm. And yes I want you to shift but shift so that choose and remember.

That is importance of the A in the ABCs.

The ABC’s of Purposeful Living Paradigm

A: AWARENESS/ ACTION

  • Are you aware of your thoughts and actions?
  • Are you aware of what is happening around you without getting distracted from your activities?
  • Are you taking action and doing something that moves you towards meeting your needs and the needs of those around you.
  • Are you acting in a manner consistent with your purpose?
  • Are you acting according to your values?

YOUR ATTITUDE

B: BEHAVIOUR/BELIEFS

  • Actions matter but it is your behaviour that tells more. Using the Behavioural Archetypes, we often learn that we act in a way that is more reactive than natural.
  • Behaviour is how we live our values and our manifesto.
  • What you believe in keeps you on course to live your purpose.

C: CONCEPTS/COMMITMENTS

  • Concepts are the ideas and beliefs that we hold and we need to always live and act in a manner consistent with those beliefs. Unless we live purposefully according to our beliefs we can feel guilty.
  • Guilt and remorse are different. Remorse occurs when you inadvertently hurt someone. Guilt is when you hurt someone intentionally. Either way, apologise and forgive and move on. This is not easy but can be done without regret or concern.
  • What are you committed to? Passion and purpose fit with our commitments and our commitments are what we promise ourselves and others. Are you committed to live your values and purpose. Commitment overcomes obstacles and keeps you focused on what matters to you.

Are you using the ABC’s to live a purposeful life? Need help with these aspects? Just ask? You can learn and participate in the Paradigm by joining the Paradigm’s Facebook Page

May you always live in the Purposeful Paradigm

Word Mentalist