Fresh Starts

#freshstaert

You can have a fresh start every day.

Last January 2017 (in NZ) I participated in #Love Your Life in 30 Days” with Mike Dooley of TUT fame.

I never finished all 30 day but my insight from the process is to confirm how blessed and fortunate I am. This does not mean a perfect life but a life that is good and this year has some wonderful prospects. Eight months into the year, many things, both good and bad, have happened but we are still blessed, happy and relatively healthy/

What is a fresh start and how does it relate to success thieves?

When you decide that you want to do something, think something or simply act differently, you have a fresh start.

Remind yourself when you doubt or question what you are doing that you are making a fresh start because TODAY is your day.

Fresh Starts Require Fresh ThinkingBeing Aware is Key to stopping success thieves. http://www.successthieves.net

And to think fresh you need to stay aware of what you are thinking, doing and saying.

If you slip and move into regret or old patterns, then simply acknowledge that emotion and thoughts and move to the new patterns and restart the process.

The most wonderful thing about fresh starts is there is NO LIMIT on how many times you can start again.

When you notice patterns or old habits returning, accept them and then challenge them Habits like eating patterns, especially for those hoping to affect their weight (either up or down). New study habits, new relationships or new career moves or even stopping smoking, drinking or drug use only requires doing it one second/minute/hour/day at a time.

Appreciate the progress you are making and get support and help when you feel overwhelmed.

And perhaps one of the best things you can do to have a really good fresh start is limit your social media activities as well as your input from news and gossip.

Your fresh start is independent of whatever is happening in the world outside of your immediate environment.

Yes, you need to know if a storm is coming, a fire or other danger that requires you to take action to stay safe. You control your actions, your thoughts and your reactions. And that means you are able to continuously fresh start.

Fresh starts are about you. Choose what you want and go for it.

Remember that what stops you from making that fresh start often has one of two causes:

  • Lack of imagination. The reluctance to find a solution or change what is or even to ask for help.
  • Commitment to start something new. Commitment to overcome the fear of change.

Where do you want the fresh start to take you to? Once you know that you just have to figure out the route and the constraints and then adapt and adjust and KEEP MOVING.

And remember that there are many coaches, mentors and advisors out there who have overcome similar challenges by making continuous fresh starts.

Find one!

Enjoy making your fresh start and remember to ask me if you believe I can help you move forward.

To you being your glorious purposeful self

#robertabudvietas

Depression, Birthdays and Success Thieves

Birthdays are supposed to be happy days but as we get older I notice how they become more and more depressing and steal the joy of the celebration.

Yesterday I wished someone a happy birthday and they responded with birthday yes, happy no.

That led to a phone call…http://www.successthieves.net; #depression

Truth was he did not feel very happy. Everything seemed hopeless.

I remember that feeling. It was one of the reasons I wrote “Who Stole My Success?”

It happens to everyone I believe. There are moments in our life when we look back and it feels like nothing has worked out. And when we feel like that it is CRITICAL to find things to be grateful for.

It is also important to create plans, even simple actions that you will undertake today and tomorrow.

World Health Organization (WHO) added a new video: I had a black dog, his name was depression. It was eye-opening for me about depression. I know that depression is serious: 3 members of my family suffer from serious, immobilizing depression.

http://successthieves.net; #depression

I don’t claim to understand the depths of the mental health situation called depression but I do know that depression can affect everyone around the person suffering.

Is there a simple way of dealing with depression, short-term or long-term?

I’m not certain that there is but what I am certain of is that unless we connect, care and love each other depression will continue to steal all of our success.

Substance abuse, binge drinking, even excessive exercise to build endorphins are all ways that can be used to reduce symptoms of depression.

But what is this thing called depression?

There are many webpages devoted to it. There are professionals in the medical and council fields that specialise in depression.

Is this an increasing health risk?

Just because you feel sad or cry are you depressed or is it a temporary human reaction and you will get through it?

My belief, (and please let me know if you agree or not); is that if we practiced the 5 A’s (awareness, acknowledgement, acceptance, appreciation and action) more and actually loved ourselves and others so that we were better connected, then depression would no longer be the fastest growing medical condition (both diagnosed and undiagnosed) in the western world today.

http:www.successthieves.net; #hugs
Hugs all around

So today – HUGS all around. I do care.

You are AWESOME and remember you can stop your success thieves by taking control of your choices and saying NO to what is not working for you.

And remember: it is okay sometimes to feel sad, cry or just feel bummed out.

May your day be filled with little miracles and one big joy that carries you through to tomorrow when the same wish holds. Do something FUN!

Until next time

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

 

It Takes a Village…

It takes a village to raise a child is an African proverb but what does it mean in today’s western world?

 

Consider that instead of a village we call it a hamlet just to shift our paradigm from an African Village.

What would we find in this hamlet and why would we want it?

  1. We would find a collection of diverse people who want to live purposefully, sustainably and grow and develop individually and collectively.
  2. Each person willing to give of themselves and share the material things they bring and share their ideas and help others.
  3. Each person would understand that they have a responsibility for themselves and to the community. They keep their word and always do their best. They ask for help when they identify that they need it.
  4. A place where blame and shame have no place as everyone is perfectly who they are in the moment.
  5. Each person accepts that every other person in the hamlet needed love, caring, understanding, friendship and support and each person works to provide that to every other person in the hamlet.
  6. The hamlet provided for its own energy, food, water and basic survival needs. All income is shared as are expenses. If is sounds like a commune there are some similarities but the difference comes because each week the person in charge changes. The hamlet needs a person in charge because it must interact with the greater world and that needs someone to help make internal decisions and help all to understand each other as well as pass out superior daily hugs to everyone.
  7. Touch is important but sexuality and sex are not important.
  8. Children are treasured and encouraged but everyone is responsible for a child’s welfare. Rules exist but but they allow individuality and encourages testing limits.
  9. All ages are valued and supported
  10. Food is simple, basic natural, pure and nutritious. No preservatives, no additives and no excess but balanced for each person’s needs at the time. Cooking can be communal or individual. Storing surplus is unnecessary as everything is made to meet daily needs however freezing, canning and preserving is encouraged. The concept is to live off the land. Meals are for sharing and learning as well as eating. Snacking is discouraged. Alcohol and medicinal drugs are special needs only. Herbs and natural products are used to optimise health. Sugar is limited or eliminated.
  11. Laughter is encouraged.
  12. Everyone is acknowledged, accepted and appreciated and told every day thank you for being you.
  13. Belief in a higher being, God is an underlying principle and gratitude for the blessings is given daily.
  14. Every person is encouraged to challenge their limits and to continually learn new things. Experimentation is encouraged.
  15. Staying in the hamlet is a choice but harming the hamlet or any individual could result in asking person to leave the hamlet.
  16. Life is purposeful and full of gratitude.
  17. The past is a lesson, the future is a promise and NOW is all there really is.

What else would you like to see in your hamlet? What would it take to create this kind of hamlet? Can it be done?

To a living a purposeful paradigm

Word Mentalist

Purposeful Living Paradigm

Recently we introduced people to the Purposeful Living Paradigm. This paradigm is based on over 50 years of study, learning, experience and helping/mentoring business owners, students and colleagues.

  • We have learned from hundreds of gurus and we believe they have missed a couple of elements that we believe are key to the paradigm.
  • We believe in personal responsibility,
  • We believe in true equality (no hierarchy)
  • We believe that business can be conducted in a manner where everyone gains what they need in a timely fashion which eliminates poverty and isolation.
  • We believe that living in the paradigm means that you are connected to others but your realise that it is a privilege, not a right.
  • In the paradigm, you know the difference between responsibility to and responsibility for.
  • Awareness is a key to living in the paradigm. You acknowledge that everyone is and they are perfectly them in this moment. You accept that they have a right to their point of view, ideas and concepts and you appreciate the differences and similarities.
  • You live by a manifesto of doing your best, assuming nothing, taking nothing personally and regret nothing because you did your best and learned from the experience.

Why Purpose?

Because purpose is important.

Purpose keeps you going through tough times.

Purpose ensures that everyone benefits.

Purpose removes the need for security blankets because it recognises the continual growth and development that purposeful living people experience.

Purpose challenges assumptions and helps one acknowledge, accept and appreciate others

Purpose keeps you grateful, humble and living in the now.

Purpose helps you enjoy day to day more fun, funds (resources) and fitness (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual).

If you want to join the paradigm or learn more about living in the paradigm, join our Facebook Page and watch for more information coming shortly.

If you want your organisation or business to be more purposeful and enjoy the true benefits of purpose let us know.

Purposeful Living is FUN!

To your purpose

Word Mentalist

Purposeful Living Paradigm #1

The Life Equations

It started as a parody on Einstein’s equation (E = Mc2 ). The thought was that there should be an equation that fits how we live. Not a linear equation, but one that was at least quadratic in form.

But what would be the elements, the equivalents to E and M and c?

What do people look for in their lives?

Our first attempts were money, health and entertainment. But these were too fixed to suit our approach. So, we started with synonyms: Wealth, Health and Enjoyment. Still too restrictive for what we wanted, and extremely hard to measure.

We eventually opted for the Three F’s…

  • Fun: that’s enjoyment, entertainment and more. It can also incorporate “bliss”, “energy”, and more.
  • Funds: the available resources that someone can have. Accounting tends to put everything down to money, and we were using the parody in a business sense. To simplify, we added the meaning of Time — you need the TIME to get things done. And it alliterates nicely with Fun
  • Fitness: If the other two began with F, then the health component should also start with an F. But Fitness can also include “being fit for purpose”, hence we could use it for physical fitness, emotional fitness, mental fitness and even spiritual fitness, whatever that could mean.

But what would be the right equation?

We chose:

F = F * F2

But which F stands for which element?

That’s the humorous part — they just all need to be there.

It gives us six life equations….

The Development Equation (Early Years)

Fun = Funds * Fitness2

As children, our lives are (mostly) about Fun. We don’t have to worry about where funds are coming from, and we do our best to be fit for all the fun we can have.

The  Rebellious-Phase Equation (Teenager Years)

As teens, we start to look at fitness for our future lives, so the subject has to be Fitness. We get fitter in all kinds of ways by mixing Funds with Fun, but Fun is the biggest contributor:

Fitness = Funds * Fun2

The Finding Your Place Equation ( Young Adult)

Suddenly, resources are the main concern, Fun isn’t as much a contributor but we have to have the knowledge and skills to generate the funds:

Funds = Fun * Fitness2

The Maturing Equation (Family/Career/Adulthood)

Funds are still our main concern, but Fitness drops, and we want to really enjoy what we do. We buy into the idea that Fun (our Bliss) is the main contributor to our earnings.

Funds = Fitness * Fun2 

 

The “What Next” Equation (Change of Life Style)

Fitness = Fun * Funds2 

At this stage of life, we usually have all the resources we can use, but we are more interested in the quality of life, rather than the quantity.

The  Rewards Equation (The Final Third Stage)

Fun = Fitness * Funds2

The circle of life/business is complete.

The stages apply to business, life and community but the key is evolution and the continual need for the components of FUN, FUNDS and FITNESS in some proportion in your life.

REMEMBER – teach your grandchildren the components and the formulae so that their world has purpose that is fulfilled.

Enjoy Fun, Funds and Fitness today

Word Mentalist