Fresh Starts

#freshstaert

You can have a fresh start every day.

Last January 2017 (in NZ) I participated in #Love Your Life in 30 Days” with Mike Dooley of TUT fame.

I never finished all 30 day but my insight from the process is to confirm how blessed and fortunate I am. This does not mean a perfect life but a life that is good and this year has some wonderful prospects. Eight months into the year, many things, both good and bad, have happened but we are still blessed, happy and relatively healthy/

What is a fresh start and how does it relate to success thieves?

When you decide that you want to do something, think something or simply act differently, you have a fresh start.

Remind yourself when you doubt or question what you are doing that you are making a fresh start because TODAY is your day.

Fresh Starts Require Fresh ThinkingBeing Aware is Key to stopping success thieves. http://www.successthieves.net

And to think fresh you need to stay aware of what you are thinking, doing and saying.

If you slip and move into regret or old patterns, then simply acknowledge that emotion and thoughts and move to the new patterns and restart the process.

The most wonderful thing about fresh starts is there is NO LIMIT on how many times you can start again.

When you notice patterns or old habits returning, accept them and then challenge them Habits like eating patterns, especially for those hoping to affect their weight (either up or down). New study habits, new relationships or new career moves or even stopping smoking, drinking or drug use only requires doing it one second/minute/hour/day at a time.

Appreciate the progress you are making and get support and help when you feel overwhelmed.

And perhaps one of the best things you can do to have a really good fresh start is limit your social media activities as well as your input from news and gossip.

Your fresh start is independent of whatever is happening in the world outside of your immediate environment.

Yes, you need to know if a storm is coming, a fire or other danger that requires you to take action to stay safe. You control your actions, your thoughts and your reactions. And that means you are able to continuously fresh start.

Fresh starts are about you. Choose what you want and go for it.

Remember that what stops you from making that fresh start often has one of two causes:

  • Lack of imagination. The reluctance to find a solution or change what is or even to ask for help.
  • Commitment to start something new. Commitment to overcome the fear of change.

Where do you want the fresh start to take you to? Once you know that you just have to figure out the route and the constraints and then adapt and adjust and KEEP MOVING.

And remember that there are many coaches, mentors and advisors out there who have overcome similar challenges by making continuous fresh starts.

Find one!

Enjoy making your fresh start and remember to ask me if you believe I can help you move forward.

To you being your glorious purposeful self

#robertabudvietas

Finding What Your Success is

Over the last forty years I have been studying success and all of the different meanings and measures.

Success Magazine is a wonderful resources. Many of their resources date back to the start of last century. Others are more recent but one common theme – you need to decide what success looks like for you.

Other Resources and Authors

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon HIll

University of Success or any other book by Og Mandino

Rich Dad Poor Dad and any other material by Robert Kiyosaki and the team

A Course in Miracles

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

The secret is to find the book, expert, author, coach that is right for you RIGHT NOW!

Oh and let’s not forget; Who Stole My Success? by Moi. If you comment on your route to success below, I will send you a free copy of the book as a thank you.

Use Affirmations

Personal, Present, Positive ones like

  • “I am the greatest” Mohammed Ali
  • “I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Winston Churchill
  • “I am a product of my decisions” Stephen Covey
  • “I am unlimited in my wealth. All areas of my life are abundant and fulfilling.” Louise Hay
  • I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends.
  • “Every decision I make is the right one for me” Louise Hay

Get a Positive reinforcement into your inbox every daywhat is success, #success http://successthieves.net/finding-what-your-success-is/

Subscribe to Hay House as well as Success Magazine.

AND NEVER let anyone chose how you feel about your success.

  • Keep your Hope alive.
  • Keep your Faith in you.
  • Keep your friends close to you.
  • Let go of the idiots who need to bring you down for them to feel good.
  • And remember

What is your success? # success http://successthieves.net/finding-what-your-success-is/GOD Created YOU and GOD does not make mistakes.

Success is yours when you believe that you are successful, amazing and awesome.

You are fulfilling a purpose so move your life forward and live the wonderous YOU.

Live your Success

I believe in you even if I don’t know you yet. I am here to support you on your journey to live your purpose and enjoy the success that comes from Purposeful Living. Like the Purposeful Living Paradigm page to continue to experience more fun, funds and fitness.

Love always

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

Taking Care of Others

Once upon a time, in a world not so long ago, most people actually knew their neighbours and kept tabs on each other’s children and elders. Chicken soup was delivered to those who were sick. Baking was shared with neighbours as was the produce from the garden. No one worried about sickos grabbing children off the street or putting dangerous things into halloween candy and fruit. Santa Claus delivered coal to bad children. Neighbours talked over the back fence and helped others out.Caring for others, #love, #care, http://successthieves.net/

It was a world where when disaster struck; you knew which neighbour needed to be checked on. You knew who the vulnerable were in your area. You cared about them and they cared about you. You helped others when they asked and even when they didn’t. You cared about those who were in pain or withdrawn and you respected other’s property.

Can we have a caring world today?

I believe we can but it requires some simple changes in the way we think and the way we belong to our communities.

It starts with family. It starts with parents setting guidelines for their children and living by those guidelines themselves. Children require several things that every parent can provide – love, attention, support, encouragement and protection. Yes children need food and shelter, clothing and education but if we provide for their emotional and mental needs, the material things are less important.

Either turn off the television or realistically discuss what is seen in the unreal world of television. This is also important as an adult because otherwise we think what we see on Shortland Street, Days of our Life, Lucifer and Suits are normal: the beautiful clothes, the luxury homes and apartments, the elaborate dinners and the abusive treatment of people.

Good writers, especially movie and television understand that you need conflict and resolution to prevent a story from being boring but seriously is that your reality? Most of us do have conflict at some time in our life but mostly we cope with a routine and the joys of doing things well.

And watching television makes us rue the ordinariness of our lives. (Books and movies can do the same thing). Studies and reports say that some people live their lives through reality television and soap operas.

Look around you. The people you see every day are the ones that really matter so today do the following:

  1. Smile at EVERYONE you meet
  2. Say hello and never be afraid to stop and talk for 30 seconds.
  3. Be kind to others. Open doors, help people with their load and be polite. Please and thank you still make a difference.
  4. Tell those in your family that you love them and say thank you to them every night as you hug them before going to sleep.
  5. Hugs are needed by every person. Touch people but only if they are comfortable with the touching. When we touch and hug something happens to our being.
  6. Share when you have excess of anything.
  7. Care for the neighbourhood. Never drop garbage and pick up others if possible. Watch where you pets defecate and pick it up.
  8. Plant beautiful flowers and share them with others.
  9. Grow herbs and use them liberally.
  10. Remember to teach your children that they have responsibilities and that nothing is theirs by right. Gratitude is something we need to practice every day.
  11. Take time to smell the grass, watch the sunrise and give thanks.
  12. Get your hands dirty occasionally. Physical labour never hurt anyone and it really grounds you.
  13. Feel the earth. Touch the grass, the leaves, the bark, the water, the wind and turn your face to the rain and the sun.
  14. Recycle as much as possible.
  15. Turn off the electronics.
  16. Laugh out loud often.
  17. Dance and move to music, even if only in your head
  18. Sing out loud.
  19. Spend time doing something new.
  20. Learn something new every day – experience ah-ha moments.

And when your heart is full of gratitude, love and laughter, you will care about others.: because to care about others you have to stop thinking only about yourself.

Live a purposeful life and enjoy it

http://www.successthieves.net; #mentor
Word Mentalist

 

What do I do now?

Have you ever felt that you reach a point and you have no idea of what to do now?

Often this question is asking you to consider one of 2 things:

  1. Am I living to my purpose?
  2. Do I need to redefine/review my constraints and choices?

When we problem solve, we need to know 5 things.

  1. Where we want to go? Move To
  2. Where we are now? Move Form
  3. What are the choices/optional activities to reach our objective? Paths
  4. What are the constraints on those choices including who else do we need to involve. Constraints
  5. Actions to move from where we are to where we want to be.

The greatest challenge is often to be clear on where we want to go?

Most of us know we don’t want to be where we are but…we are often afraid to envision where we want to be or worse we look at what we have and are afraid of losing it.

Many years ago, Peter and I packed up a wonderful life in Canada for a new adventure. We moved half way around the world with 40 boxes and 8 suitcases and 2 children under 12. We knew we wanted a different life. Peter always intended to move to New Zealand when he left Glasgow. So I knew we were coming to New Zealand when we married. The when was dependent on many variables.

Since coming to New Zealand, we have explored many different living conditions and styles. We have renovated old villas, built homes similar to what we lived in when we were in Canada. We have lived in apartments, flats, and different types of houses. (Yes we are a bit nomadic).

We have started companies, trained entrepreneurs, managed companies, gone back to university, run projects, worked on boards, mentored hundreds of people and so many more adventures.

In all our adventures, we wanted to meet both our purposes.

  • Peter’s to learn as much as possible not from formal education but through experience and book (internet) learning.
  • Mine was to help people and Peter supported me in this allowing me to help thousands of people learn and manage businesses and create new careers for themselves.

So when we ask “what next” we always revisit our purpose and look at what we can do next to meet that purpose.

And so the journey continues.

What next for you? Please share?

Live your Purpose

Word Mentalist

Purposeful Living Paradigm

Recently we introduced people to the Purposeful Living Paradigm. This paradigm is based on over 50 years of study, learning, experience and helping/mentoring business owners, students and colleagues.

  • We have learned from hundreds of gurus and we believe they have missed a couple of elements that we believe are key to the paradigm.
  • We believe in personal responsibility,
  • We believe in true equality (no hierarchy)
  • We believe that business can be conducted in a manner where everyone gains what they need in a timely fashion which eliminates poverty and isolation.
  • We believe that living in the paradigm means that you are connected to others but your realise that it is a privilege, not a right.
  • In the paradigm, you know the difference between responsibility to and responsibility for.
  • Awareness is a key to living in the paradigm. You acknowledge that everyone is and they are perfectly them in this moment. You accept that they have a right to their point of view, ideas and concepts and you appreciate the differences and similarities.
  • You live by a manifesto of doing your best, assuming nothing, taking nothing personally and regret nothing because you did your best and learned from the experience.

Why Purpose?

Because purpose is important.

Purpose keeps you going through tough times.

Purpose ensures that everyone benefits.

Purpose removes the need for security blankets because it recognises the continual growth and development that purposeful living people experience.

Purpose challenges assumptions and helps one acknowledge, accept and appreciate others

Purpose keeps you grateful, humble and living in the now.

Purpose helps you enjoy day to day more fun, funds (resources) and fitness (mental, physical, emotional and spiritual).

If you want to join the paradigm or learn more about living in the paradigm, join our Facebook Page and watch for more information coming shortly.

If you want your organisation or business to be more purposeful and enjoy the true benefits of purpose let us know.

Purposeful Living is FUN!

To your purpose

Word Mentalist

Circumstances Dictate

Circumstances dictate

The things we all must face

Surround us all with fears

The world’s a vale of tears.

Our choices make the rule:

Hero or zero or the fool.

Circumstances dictate

Make victims of each race

Zero takes the simplest way:

Loss through expediency.

The fool does nothing different

Thinking it’s all efficient.

Circumstances dictate

Choose destiny or our fate

Heroes make their own path

They learn quickly how to laugh

And cry, but don’t hesitate

They’re never victims when

Circumstances dictate.

 

Purposeful Living Paradigm #1

The Life Equations

It started as a parody on Einstein’s equation (E = Mc2 ). The thought was that there should be an equation that fits how we live. Not a linear equation, but one that was at least quadratic in form.

But what would be the elements, the equivalents to E and M and c?

What do people look for in their lives?

Our first attempts were money, health and entertainment. But these were too fixed to suit our approach. So, we started with synonyms: Wealth, Health and Enjoyment. Still too restrictive for what we wanted, and extremely hard to measure.

We eventually opted for the Three F’s…

  • Fun: that’s enjoyment, entertainment and more. It can also incorporate “bliss”, “energy”, and more.
  • Funds: the available resources that someone can have. Accounting tends to put everything down to money, and we were using the parody in a business sense. To simplify, we added the meaning of Time — you need the TIME to get things done. And it alliterates nicely with Fun
  • Fitness: If the other two began with F, then the health component should also start with an F. But Fitness can also include “being fit for purpose”, hence we could use it for physical fitness, emotional fitness, mental fitness and even spiritual fitness, whatever that could mean.

But what would be the right equation?

We chose:

F = F * F2

But which F stands for which element?

That’s the humorous part — they just all need to be there.

It gives us six life equations….

The Development Equation (Early Years)

Fun = Funds * Fitness2

As children, our lives are (mostly) about Fun. We don’t have to worry about where funds are coming from, and we do our best to be fit for all the fun we can have.

The  Rebellious-Phase Equation (Teenager Years)

As teens, we start to look at fitness for our future lives, so the subject has to be Fitness. We get fitter in all kinds of ways by mixing Funds with Fun, but Fun is the biggest contributor:

Fitness = Funds * Fun2

The Finding Your Place Equation ( Young Adult)

Suddenly, resources are the main concern, Fun isn’t as much a contributor but we have to have the knowledge and skills to generate the funds:

Funds = Fun * Fitness2

The Maturing Equation (Family/Career/Adulthood)

Funds are still our main concern, but Fitness drops, and we want to really enjoy what we do. We buy into the idea that Fun (our Bliss) is the main contributor to our earnings.

Funds = Fitness * Fun2 

 

The “What Next” Equation (Change of Life Style)

Fitness = Fun * Funds2 

At this stage of life, we usually have all the resources we can use, but we are more interested in the quality of life, rather than the quantity.

The  Rewards Equation (The Final Third Stage)

Fun = Fitness * Funds2

The circle of life/business is complete.

The stages apply to business, life and community but the key is evolution and the continual need for the components of FUN, FUNDS and FITNESS in some proportion in your life.

REMEMBER – teach your grandchildren the components and the formulae so that their world has purpose that is fulfilled.

Enjoy Fun, Funds and Fitness today

Word Mentalist

Sharing Definitions Stops Success Thieves

One of the greatest challenges people are experiencing every day is understanding each other. Why?

Because we fail to define what we mean and that steals our success with the relationship with that person.

If we look at the Trump-Clinton clashes, how many of their differences are the result of how they define the problems and issues.

Many years ago my son and his wife were going through a challenging time and one of the comments that was made at the time was the different way they described the situation which meant that they dealt with the situation very differently.

Working with the Behavioral Archetypes, we know that a person who is primarily a “face” has very different definitions than someone who is a “heart” or “hands”. Recently I have been very challenged by the face behaviour people in my life and have  left an organisation I loved dearly because the definitions of concepts like respect, sharing and seeing the best were so different.

What is Your  Definition of Achievement? 

Look at the words in the picture. How do you define each of those words?

Now go ask a business colleague for their definition of the same words? (No prompting just what does “…” mean to you)

Now ask your grandparents 0r parents how they define those words and if you no longer have grandparents or parents ask someone at least 20 years older than you are.

And then go ask a child, someone 20 years younger than you, for their definition.

What happened? Did you get the same definition?

Is anyone right? Is anyone wrong?

When you get a “rich shared map” of what people mean by a word, concept, activity, you start to build a shared idea and can move to a different level of communication.

And when that happens, success thieves are stopped. You now  can make a real difference to your relationship. And that leads to – WHATEVER You DESIRE.

Please share what happened when you asked about the definitions. I know that when I talk with my children and grandchildren, it is always enlightening.

To your success

Word Mentalist

 

Finding Your Success

Over the last forty years I have been studying success and all of the different meanings and measures.

Success Magazine is a wonderful resources. Many of their resources date back to the start of last century. Others are more recent but one common theme – you need to decide what success looks like for you.

Other Resources and Authors

Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon HIll

University of Success or any other book by Og Mandino

Rich Dad Poor Dad and any other material by Robert Kiyosaki and the team

A Course in Miracles

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

The secret is to find the book, expert, author, coach that is right for you RIGHT NOW!

Oh and let’s not forget; Who Stole My Success? by Moi. If you comment on your route to success below, I will send you a free copy of the book as a thank you.

Use Affirmations

Personal, Present, Positive ones like

  • “I am the greatest” Mohammed Ali
  • “I am an optimist. It does not seem to be much use being anything else.” Winston Churchill
  • “I am a product of my decisions” Stephen Covey
  • “I am unlimited in my wealth. All areas of my life are abundant and fulfilling.” Louise Hay
  • I am blessed with an incredible family and wonderful friends.
  • “Every decision I make is the right one for me” Louise Hay

Get a Positive reinforcement into your inbox every day

Subscribe to Hay House as well as Success Magazine.

AND NEVER let anyone tell you how you feel about you and your success.

  • Keep your Hope alive.
  • Keep your Faith in you.
  • Keep your friends close to you.
  • Let go of the idiots who need to bring you down for them to feel good.
  • And remember

GOD Created YOU and GOD does not make mistakes.

Success is yours when you believe that you are successful, amazing and awesome.

You are fulfilling a purpose so move your life forward and live the wonderous YOU.

Live your Success

I believe in you even if I don’t know you yet

Love always

 

Awareness Stops Success Thieves

#awareness

A while ago,  I was listening to Ian Ferguson, one of New Zealand’s top Olympians discussing the secrets to winning gold medals. The secret…paying attention to what is happening to you and your body – i.e.AWARENESS.

Business advisors constantly tell you to focus on one thing at ta time. And when you focus you have to be aware. Aware of what you are doing what results you want. Aware of what is actually happening.

When you meditate, you are aware of your mantra, your breath or some other specific point. The greater your awareness of a single thing, the more you can find peace and answers.

Success requires that same level of awareness.

  • A laser focus.
  • A clear picture or objective, goal, outcome.

And when you are so totally aware of what you want, there is no way anyone can steal your success. You stop those success thieves simply because there is no room in your mind for them.

Doubt occurs only when you stop being aware of your objective and activities

Fear happens when you pause and lose focus.

Possibility Thinking

Anything is possible if you truly believe. The challenge is to keep doubt and fear away. Awareness is the only way of doing that.

What exactly should you be aware of?

  1. What you are thinking
  2. What you are doing
  3. What others are saying and more importantly not saying.

What is happening that you can control.

Always remember the Guide to Purposeful Living – Awareness, Acknowledgement, Acceptance, Appreciation and Action.

And live by the Manifesto to a Meaningful Life – Keep your word, Assume Nothing, Take Nothing Personal, Always do your best and Regret Nothing.

Through  AWARENESS YOU control.

Through Awareness You make choices that keep success thieves at bay.

Being Aware helps you feel purposeful, passionate and happy.

So be aware. Stop your success thieves.

Live long and prosper

Word Mentalist