Words, Understanding and the Success Thieves

Words and how we understand them can either help us succeed or totally steal our success. The Assumptions we make about the meaning of the words we use impacts on our success.

When you listen to the words of Ronan Keating – When you say nothing at all implies that expressing love can be done without words but… Listen for a moment

The smile on your face,
The look in your eyes,
The touch of your hand
Lets me know that you need me.

Do we really need the words to form an impression, an idea or a concept? Or do we assume that the we understand what the other person is trying to convey without words. According to this song…NO words are needed.


Word Awareness

By being aware of the words you use, you can understand first yourself and then others. And that understanding leads to you being able to accept and acknowledge what those words mean and how they affect you and others.

Do you even need words?

According to the song, words are unnecessary for him to know that “you need me” but is that an assumption and can that assumption lead to heartbreak?

My husband and I have been married over 47 years but while I know that he needs (wants) me, I am also aware of the language we use. There have been times when I say or do something that annoys him totally. We needed words to prevent the shattering and success of our long term relationship if we let it. Words clear up situations. They allow us to express ourselves and learn more about ourselves and those who matter.

By understanding the words on all levels – mental, emotional, physical and spiritual, we can stop those thieves that could destroy a wonderful friendship, relationship and support.

Unkind Words

There are many times you use a word that others find unkind or offensive but your intention was not to offend. Your intention was only to help, instead the other person misunderstood and suddenly the relationship shatters.

Today’s challenge:

Look at the words you use this week and what you understand them to mean and what others seem understand. If in doubt ask them what they understood you to mean?

Look at how this affect the success in your relationships?

And remember your smile, your touch, do make a difference but the other person may still not know what you really need or want.

Together let’s build more success by watching the words and assumptions we make.



Being Transparent: Do you really see what is Happening?

When you look at the definition of transparent, it means you can see through it. But seeing through something may not mean you actually see what is happening.

If you take a look on social media you find many stories where the organisation claimed to be transparent but in actual fact the people who were looking at the entity were unable to see what was really going on.

Some examples:

In technology many systems are

Given the nature of transparency therefore does that mean you can actually see what is happening or is it like so many things..if I have to tell you I am honest, integrous or transparent does that mean that my actions make you think otherwise.

Leaders, politicians even family and friends want us to think of them in a particular way. They object when we find their actions and their words conflict and make us feel uncertain.

The conflict usually is the result of mismatching and misunderstanding the Archetypes involved. You may have been taught that communication is tone and posture are more important than the words but in our experience the words have impact, if not immediately than when reflection occurs.

And miscommunication can occur when you think we have shown all our cards, explained everything, been transparent, but have not been understood by the other party. Every day people are so busy that they often do not take the time to understand others or actually deal and question what others say to them.  It causes stress. It leads to confusion. And unfortunately it can lead to health problems. I remember several years ago when my boss and I had major communication problems and I became crippled and unable to talk. It lasted until one day after I quit the company.

Similar things happen with many of our clients, especially when they have made a clear decision and suddenly someone challenges them on their decision. They then start judging, questioning and feeling uncertain. And when that doubt occurs, they become virtually stuck. The success thieves have stolen their ability to take action.


  • If transparency really means that you see what is happening or just that you see the outcome someone else wants you to.
  • Words have power and we respond to words based on both the situation and the Archetypes involved.
  • Our success depends on how we respond to the communications that happen around and with us.

Words do have power. Use them wisely and ask for help when you feel a conflict.

Never doubt yourself.

Mentoring is a great way to build your confidence in what you see and your gut senses. Contact me if I can help you

To your success

Word Mentalist