Remember when we shared village principals…
- children played on the street and everyone watched out for them?
- the elderly were visited by their neighbours on a regular basis?
- We were connected on an eye-ball to eye-ball level rather than electronically.
- We noticed when someone was at a neighbour’s window.
- We asked strangers if we could help them.
- We smiled at everyone.
- We talked to people in shops and had a relationship with the butcher, the baker and the pharmacist. The staff knew who we were and what we were looking for and when we would shop.
But that has changed and with the change we seem to have had an increase in isolation, depression, stress, suicide, health issues and a general breakdown of relationships.
An Alternative: Cohousing
Here is a Ted talk on cohousing
Thriving depends on connection. You really achieve very little on your own and since we rarely pat ourselves on our own backs, who else will support us and cheer us on?
We are all here on this earth on purpose. We all belong here. We all exist to help and serve others so let’s think about how we live.
Fear dies when we stop feeling isolated. Remember how it feels to be loved. To be cared for and nurtured. We need more of that feeling not less. We need that feeling at all ages.
Success is not about having powerful jobs, lots of money and lots of power. Look at people you admire and study their careers. How many destroy what is good when they get power?
How many burn out quickly when they are on the top of their “game/career’? Alcohol, drugs grab hold because people need something to make them feel better or to calm then down.
Let’s talk more about cohabiting. Talk about community not in what can you do for me or for the less fortunate but what can we do for each other. How do we stop the insanity?
Do we tell governments, politicians and despots/dictators to take a hike and instead of waiting for someone else to fix the problem around us, we do it ourselves.
We go out and patch the road, feed the hungry and house the homeless. We acknowledge that everyone has a value and we accept and appreciate what everyone can contribute. We feed the hungry and they help us with the garden or the housework. Not charity but sharing and helping. Walking together. Reading together. Laughing together. Sharing heartaches and joys. We help others to learn by sharing our stories and experiences especially those about caring for others.
I believe that cohabiting is the future for every apartment building and gated community and suburb but …we need to change our attitude and stop fearing that we will lose something precious. There is only one thing precious.
And life is precious because it is about love, interconnectivity, faith and expressing those things.
What do you really want in your LIFE? What do you have in your life that you value that keeps you on living your purpose.
Let us create villages. The concept is growing geographically but now it needs to grow emotionally and connectivity wise. It will take a change in thinking, attitude and it will push boundaries.
Let us all care more.
With love and best wishes